The break up can be just as toxic as the relationship was. Not only are you left sad and heartbroken; it can also leave you emotionally drained and withdrawn.
Some people jump back on to the dating scene too soon,
due to loneliness or the need to fill a void, which can turn
out to be a huge mistake.
Dating too soon can cause you too:
Make the new person pay for the mistakes
of your failed relationship.
Skip dating and jump into a relationship.
Expect too much too soon.
Put all of your eggs into one basket.
Give too much of yourself to soon.
Beware of the energy you put out into the atmosphere,
as it will be the energy you with receive.
Before you begin setting dating goals or even start the dating process again, ask yourself some questions.
Are your truly ready to date again?
Did you allow yourself time to heal?
Are you mentally ready?
Have you let go of your anger and emotional baggage?
Do you have a healthy relationship with yourself?
Do you know what you want?
It is very imperative to be sure of what you want, if you
don't know what you want, then how would you know
what qualities you want in a mate?
Try writing down the things you want in a relationship.
If your goal is to be married, then don’t date a person who doesn’t want to be married. Why invest your time and effort
and risk possible heartache?
If your goal is not to be married then don't date a person who is looking to get married - it only confuses things.
Be honest with yourself and your perspective mate.
Relationships are like anything else you set goals for and want to be successful at. Hard work and effort goes a long way.
Although it's important to choose the right mate,
try not to be too picky and overlook a great person in search
of your fantasy mate or soul-mate. Just because you may not have everything in common, doesn’t mean that he/she is
not the right person for you. Opposites do attract.
Dating people based on looks solely, can potentially be disastrous. Yes, you need to be attracted to that person, but
you don’t fall in love with their outer beauty, because it’s the inner beauty that really captures your heart. All else is superficial.
Although dating is a learning experience, don't make it so complicated. Dating is meant to be fun, so enjoy yourself .
Live Learn and Grow.
Relationships are all so exciting and fresh in the beginning, but after some time like many other things in life it becomes routine and can lose its fizzle – especially in long term relationships.
What do you do?
Do you adapt to routine and possibly grow apart
or even worse, stray?
Here are some tips that can keep your relationship new.
Rekindle your friendship and strengthen your bond.
In the beginning you went out on dates and spent quality time with one another and had fun. It is important to still have date night. Do what you did in the beginning, but spice things up as time goes by. Go out to dinner, but also make dinner together at home, with candle light music wine and even dress the part.
This is a key aspect of any relationship. Some people are Sapio-Sexual meaning that they are attracted to and can become aroused, by intelligence. Sometimes we need more engaging and stimulating conversation, which can spark your thoughts and penetrating the mind, intellectually. It’s sexy, sensual and can create a sense of intimacy.
Get little colorful stick notes and write little sexy messages to each other. Women love to hear their mates tell them they are sexy. It adds to their confidence. Men love compliments too so create balance with the love notes, tell how sexy he is too.
I Love you:
Simply saying I love you while looking into each others eyes is romantic and engaging.
Pay attention to each other
Appreciate each other
Trust each other
Greeting with a hug and kiss
Take walks together
Keep the relationship romantic. Shower together; take bubble baths, try massages with sensual smelling oil from a massage candle. Surprise your mate with flowers, candle light, wine music and you. Send flowers just because.
Intimacy doesn't have to involve sex. Cuddle together, hold hands, hug, talk; simply spending quality time together is all apart of intimacy. Explore each other sensually not sexually, there’s a difference.
Learn how to experience each other through the awareness of your five senses. (Touch, Taste, Smell, Hear and Sight) Intimacy connects the mind body and soul, bringing you and your mate closer together. When you couple sensuality with being in tune with your sexuality, it can enhance the art of making Love.
It awakens your senses - it's erotic and sexy!
Plan a romantic day with your mate starting with a spa day at home and then try some sensually exploration of the senses, by blindfolding your mate - touching tasting and explore!
Remember, you don't have to spend a lot to experience a lot.
Spice it up in the bedroom:
Try something new.
Guide your mate into what you like. Don't always expect your mate to know everything that you like. What you liked 3 years ago, may not be what you like now. Show him/her what you want, how you want it and let them know how it feels.
Communication is key.
Do some erotic shopping, online discreetly or in person, whatever you both are comfortable with. Erotic shops are fun, sexy and spicy and endearing. Shop discreetly at The EroticKookie Shop Look for toys like Infinit; the toy with endless possibilities. He'll love it just as much as you.
Use your imagination and take the fun to another level.
Don’t just live life, experience it together!
Just because you’re growing old together, doesn’t mean your relationship has to get old.
Have Fun – Keep your relationship fresh and new.
A romantic weekend getaway
Salsa dance lesson (it’s sexy)
Erotic texting (It's Foreplay)
Erotic massage (It's sensual)
Go to Dave & Busters
Just spend quality time together
(No cellphones or social networking allowed)
Never Go To Bed Angry!