The break up can be just as toxic as the relationship was. Not only are you left sad and heartbroken; it can also leave you emotionally drained and withdrawn.
Some people jump back on to the dating scene too soon,
due to loneliness or the need to fill a void, which can turn
out to be a huge mistake.
Dating too soon can cause you too:
Make the new person pay for the mistakes
of your failed relationship.
Skip dating and jump into a relationship.
Expect too much too soon.
Put all of your eggs into one basket.
Give too much of yourself to soon.
Beware of the energy you put out into the atmosphere,
as it will be the energy you with receive.
Before you begin setting dating goals or even start the dating process again, ask yourself some questions.
Are your truly ready to date again?
Did you allow yourself time to heal?
Are you mentally ready?
Have you let go of your anger and emotional baggage?
Do you have a healthy relationship with yourself?
Do you know what you want?
It is very imperative to be sure of what you want, if you
don't know what you want, then how would you know
what qualities you want in a mate?
Try writing down the things you want in a relationship.
If your goal is to be married, then don’t date a person who doesn’t want to be married. Why invest your time and effort
and risk possible heartache?
If your goal is not to be married then don't date a person who is looking to get married - it only confuses things.
Be honest with yourself and your perspective mate.
Relationships are like anything else you set goals for and want to be successful at. Hard work and effort goes a long way.
Although it's important to choose the right mate,
try not to be too picky and overlook a great person in search
of your fantasy mate or soul-mate. Just because you may not have everything in common, doesn’t mean that he/she is
not the right person for you. Opposites do attract.
Dating people based on looks solely, can potentially be disastrous. Yes, you need to be attracted to that person, but
you don’t fall in love with their outer beauty, because it’s the inner beauty that really captures your heart. All else is superficial.
Although dating is a learning experience, don't make it so complicated. Dating is meant to be fun, so enjoy yourself .
Live Learn and Grow.